In case you missed it…we will be having a sweet baby come July! As a first time mom, I’m experiencing so much “new” and I’m excited to share this journey with you! I will begin with how I found out and then end with my first trimester recap. There may be some TMI points..just FYI. So here goes!
How did we find out?
Growing up, I never had regular cycles so tracking really never helped but I could always tell by my body when I was about to start. I knew it had been over a month so I should be experiencing cramps or breast soreness, but I wasn’t. In fact, I remember being sick for the weekend but thought it was just a stomach bug. It was a Sunday night and I took a pregnancy test just to clear my mind…and it was positive. I couldn’t believe it, so I took another test and it was negative. I was now confused…so I went to Target (the same night) and bought 3 different tests to take in the next morning. In conclusion, I ended up taking 5 more tests and all were positive. You know…just wanted to extra sure.
It was a Sunday night so he was back home getting ready for work the next day. As soon as I took the first test, I tried calling him but he was already asleep so I called him first thing in the morning. Wanted to tell him in a cute way, but there was no way I could wait. I had no idea what his reaction was going to be so I was naturally shaking. Here is how the conversation went. “Hey babe, we are pregnant” “Are you sure?” “Well I took 5 tests this morning and they all said positive.” To which he replied “I’m leaving for Dallas now. I’m excited and can’t wait to hold you. We are going to be okay.”
Since the beginning of our relationship, we talked about kids and knew that we both wanted a family…we just didn’t think it would be this soon.
Going to the doctor
I called the doctor the next morning on the way to work. Naturally, I was freaked out and wanted to confirm everything was okay. Unfortunately, my OB office makes you wait until you’re 7-8 weeks before coming in for an appointment. At the time, we thought I was 4 weeks (due to my last period) so those 3 weeks felt like FOREVER.
Garrett was unable to make it to the first appointment due to work, so thankfully my mom and aunt were able to come. Yes, I’m 23, but needed my mom there for comfort and support lol. We went into the appointment thinking I was 7+ weeks so I was excited to go in for the sonogram to see the baby on the screen. The nurse started with the traditional abdominal sonogram but was unable to find the baby. My heart dropped. I took a pregnancy test before the doctor (just to confirm before wasting the Dr.s time) and it was positive so I was confused. The nurse then had me change for a vaginal sonogram and was able to just see the sac, which was measuring 4 weeks. There was no heartbeat, no baby, and just the beginning of a pregnancy..or a failed pregnancy.
I cried the whole appointment. To this day, I still have no idea what the doctor said in that appointment. Thankfully, my mom and aunt were there who are great at taking notes and speaking positivity. I’ve always been the type to think the worse. After multiple questions, the doctor sent me to the lab for blood work and told me to come back in 48 hours for more blood work. If my levels increased, then I’m pregnant. If my levels decreased, then I had a miscarriage.
After a LONG few days, I received a call from my doctor saying that my levels increased and she would see me back in a few weeks for another sonogram.
I went back a few weeks later and confirmed a pregnancy and finally got to see little nugget up close at 8 weeks. I left the office with such a sigh of relief that everything looked good. It finally felt real!
First Trimester Recap
First off, whoever gave morning sickness its name was an idiot. For me, it was all day, 24 hour, sickness. This also started really early for me (around 4 weeks) and I’m currently still nauseous today (17 weeks) just not near as bad. I couldn’t keep much food/drinks down other than grapes, crackers, and sprite. If your doctor approves, B6 + Unisom every night is a game changer.
The exhaustion was unlike anything I have ever experienced. Growing a human is hard work. I would go to work, come home take a nap, and then was asleep for the night by 8pm. No energy to go shopping, go to dinner, workout, etc. One of the biggest lessons I learned was that you have to listen to your body. If you are exhausted, take a nap. Don’t push yourself or it will make the next day 10x worse. At least it did for me.
In the beginning, I didn’t see much of a change with my mood…but as the weeks passed, yikes. I was overall moody and irritable. I would get mad at Garrett for no reason, went from feeling happy to sad/mad extremely quickly, and was really sensitive. Lets just say, I’m very thankful that Garrett is still around and had a good attitude everyday during those dark days lol.
From being so sick everyday, I obviously did not feel great on the outside. I didn’t want to go anywhere. I did not feel attractive..even with makeup on. My biggest regret is not taking any photos during this time or a weekly bump picture, although family kept telling me to, I just did not feel like getting up and looking presentable. Oh and lets not even talk about how horrible my acne was.
This was probably the scariest part of all. I had terrible cramps for weeks straight. Just to be clear, cramps are totally normal, but they are also a sign of miscarriage so they messed with my head and made me paranoid.
I couldn’t eat much other than bland foods. Smells made everything worse. The number one thing that I couldn’t eat was meat, specifically chicken or steak. The smell, sight, or taste made me extremely sick. The main craving I had during the first trimester was cereal and then towards the end was (and still is) root beer and Ched R Peppers from Sonic.
Whew! Okay, that was A LOT and I could continue on and on, but I won’t. I’ll do other “bump” dates, trimester posts, and Q&A as we go. Overall, the first trimester was rough but had some up moments. Garrett and I are very thankful to be able to experience this together and just cannot wait to love on our baby.
Also wanted to add that I don’t intend this post to seem insensitive to the heart break some might experience, as I know people who have gone through miscarriage, loss, or who have struggled to get pregnant. My heart goes out to you and my prayers are with you.
Thank you for reading and joining me in this journey. I cant wait to share more updates!