Okay, lets get to it. The most requested blog post I have had from people (mainly girls)….self comparison on social media.
Social media is a huge part of society now and an amazing place where we can connect with so many people around the world. We get to document our moments in a second and show people what we want them to see. One of my favorite pastors, Steven Furtick, once said “The reason we struggle with insecurity is because we compare our behind the scenes to everyone else’s highlight reel” and I feel like this a great quote for this topic.
Although social media is great for connecting, it can also bring the negative thought of self comparison. It’s so easy to just scroll and scroll and compare ourselves to someone else’s life. I know from experience, I’ve gotten lost in the sea of scrolling through countless photos to the point I start to compare myself to someone’s body size, job, hair, etc. There came a time I had to step away from social media for a little bit because these thoughts were repeating over and over in my head and caused so much anxiety.
During this time off social media, I constantly repeated what Steven Furtick said in my head (and still do at times). We narrow down what we put on our social media accounts and although someones photo may appear “perfect” we never truly see the story behind the scene of the shot. I personally remember having to take a photo for a sponsorship and having to put sunglasses on for the picture because my eyes were swollen from crying before the shoot…yet, I had people mention how “perfect” the picture was.
Comparing yourself to others is a battle you are never going to win and it’s no good for your own self-love and self-esteem. Here are some tips that have helped me when I start to compare myself and I hope they can help you too.
Take some time off of the networks.
I now try to limit my time on social media. Most days, I get on Instagram to post on my story and never scroll. I know some people who choose a day during the week to unplug and they say it is their favorite day of the week. Find what works for you and stick to it.
It’s okay to unfollow the people on social media that cause you to compare yourself. If you are finding yourself disappointed after looking at their content or dissatisfied with how you look in comparison to them…unfollow them. You should follow people that inspire you and make you feel positive. This goes for my feed as well. If I am making you feel bad in any way, please unfollow me. I hope this is not the case as I try to be transparent with my followers, but I still stand by what I say.
3.) Change your focus
On the days I find myself struggling with this, I have to change my focus from ME to GOD.
Once I start thinking those thoughts, I have learned to just stop what I’m doing..pray..and read scripture. One verse that always helps me is Psalm 139:13-14
“ For you created my inmost being; you knit me together in my mother’s womb. I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made; your works are wonderful, I know that full well.”
I want to end this by saying that God looks at you and says that you are His, you are chosen, and you are fearfully and wonderfully made. In your doubting moments and comparing yourself to someone, lift your heart to Him. Don’t compare yourself to someone else. Look at your God given qualities and be happy in who YOU are.